Stepping into Vulnerability a.k.a. True Human Connection
Fear to be truly seen..
… is one of the biggest blockages holding us back from true human connection.
I mean, how scary is it to speak your truth, share your fears, needs or desires knowing it might upset the other person. Or even worse… that you may lose the other person, be it a friendship or romantic partner. The fear of being judged or criticized is a big one - the fear of being “unlovable” because of your deepest desires. A lot of the time, that risk feels too great and the easier option is to avoid allowing these fragile parts of ourselves to be exposed.
Spending my childhood feeling very much UN-seen and UN-heard, I learnt to speak up in my teens and this was a big shift for me. A braver, more adventurous part of me stepped forward not wanting to hold back, but I was still very much operating from my ego - reacting and responding immediately after being triggered, needing my voice to be heard and doing my best to prove that I was right.
But this was speaking from a place of a trigger, projecting my wounds. It was all ‘mind/ego’ and no heart.
It wasn’t until I learned various Conscious Connection practices which invite you to lean into the trigger (wounds), feel a little bit deeper, then deeper again, peeling back the layers, feel into the heart, and then speaking from that space, when the time is right. This is stepping into your vulnerability and it is something truly beautiful to witness and experience.
This, for me, has been a life-changing practice.
Even though I feel very comfortable speaking openly to most people, I spent years avoiding eye contact with those I spoke to. Always afraid of being truly seen - in my aliveness, my sadness, my darkness, my sensuality. Yet now, some of the most profound experiences I have had in deep human connection is looking into the eyes of another (sometimes complete strangers) and witnessing that person in a state of vulnerability. Nowhere to hide….no “mask”…no personality. Just sitting, staring back into my eyes.
The eyes, a window into the Soul.
Witnessing another woman or man cry, while looking into each others eyes.
Feeling comfortable to allow myself to cry - tears of sadness, of openness and feeling comfortable with that. Without shame. Not trying to hide. Allowing my energy to be felt and Soul to be seen.
Allowing myself to be witnessed, with all of my flaws and beauty, knowing that behind the triggers is a wound, waiting to be healed.
THIS is real human connection.
Being vulnerable isn’t a weakness. It’s a super power. Its the bridge between surface level connection and true, authentic intimacy.
By sharing the deepest parts of yourself, you are also allowing the deepest parts of yourself to be witnessed, felt and loved and by doing so, it gives the opportunity for the other to learn, rise and meet you at the same level.
What would it feel like for you, to be witnessed from this space? To be truly seen?
Discovering the power of vulnerability and Conscious Connection practices are both elements of my signature 1:1 Mentorship program. Full details via my Offerings page x
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